In our turbulent times, we are learning stoicism, an approach to life that puts common sense first.
“Stoicism is a philosophical school, at the beginning of the third century BC. e. founded Zeno of China in Athens. The name of this school comes from the Greek word “standing”, which means “portico”, because it was there, under the porticoes, that Zenon first began to train his followers. This philosophy proclaims that virtue (mainly four main virtues was meant: abstinence, courage, justice and wisdom) is happiness and that our problems arise from the way we perceive things, and not from the things themselves. Stoicism teaches that we cannot control anything and rely on anything outside our “smart choice” (this is the ability to use our own minds to choose how to perceive external events, to respond to and navigate them), ”the authors of book 366 explain Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance, and the Art of Living Ryan Holiday and Stephen Hensilman. In their publication, American marketers talk about stoicism to help other people cultivate stamina, self-control, and wisdom — valuable qualities that help keep calm in today's crazy world. More specifically about how to learn all this, further.
To be able to say “no” is a superpower subject only to the elect. It's so difficult – to refuse when they invite somewhere, they offer something, when they oblige, when everyone around does something. “And it’s even harder to say“ no ”to the emotions that devour our time: anger, enthusiasm, preoccupation, fixation, desire,” the authors of the book write. It seems to us that all these are trifles, but they form the habit. If you ignore them, sooner or later in life there will be no place for something else, more useful and rational. Just because a person does not know how to say no, he does not have enough time for himself, a hobby or education. Of course, on the path to gaining power to refuse, you risk losing pseudo-friends and acquaintances, worsen relations with your boss, but do not back down: the more often you say “no” to things that are unnecessary for you, the more you say “yes” to what is really significant. A little practice, and you will feel how much calmer and happier you will become without the put of unnecessary obligations.
Strive for balance
Balance is a synonym for calm. It is not achieved immediately, but only when you manage to escape from external stimuli. Ideally, you need a quiet, secluded place, but if not? Seek salvation in your own judgment and mind. Holiday and Hensilman write that “common sense can do great things: take a bunch of obscure and confusing external events and organize them.” But, the authors warn, if your judgments are distorted, because you have no habit of analyzing information, using verified data or listening to the voices of the mind, then everything else in life will be distorted.
Do not let yourself be manipulated
There is a constant struggle for a modern person: marketers want to sell something, media come up with incredible headlines for you to pay attention to, application developers put pressure on weaknesses, offering to lose weight together … Fortunately, the ancient Greek stoics did not have all this. But they, too, could not completely shield themselves from the influence of society, because when you are close to other people, hatred, lust and other passions haunt even the most persistent. Therefore, a person who seeks to achieve peace of mind needs to control his passions and desire, since they are a way of influencing consciousness. Only values and self-conscious attitude are able to lead forward. Everything else is ballast, which pulls to the bottom.
Cut the amount of news
In modern society there is an opinion that we should all be up to date with the latest news, if, of course, we belong to its progressive part. Why is Trump declared an impeachment, what is the trick of the latest Westwood collection, how many animals died during fires in Australia and so on and so forth … And if you are not interested in all this? Is it worth the time and effort to create the appearance of comprehensive awareness? “But where is the evidence that this is so necessary? Are there policemen with whips above us and watching us to watch all the news? Or are you just embarrassed to silently sit away while everyone is discussing global trends? Of course, you should be aware of major events that can directly affect your family or country. But that’s enough, ”the advocates of Stoicism write. Do not be afraid, cut back on the consumption of a media product in order to save time on something that is fun and not terrifying.
Do not be angry
All too strong feelings are expensive for their "owners". The Stoics often repeated: anger almost never helps to solve a single problem. Usually he only spoils everything. We are upset, everyone around is sad, and the problem is by no means moving towards a denouement. Many successful people claim anger is a powerful engine. The passionate desire to “prove that everyone was mistaken”, “to throw evidence to everyone in the face” has helped many to become millionaires. The anger that someone was called fat or stupid caused people to become fit or to conquer the intellectual heights. Anger over rejection helped many to make their own way. But no one talks about what was behind such a powerful emotion, how much effort is needed to warm up this feeling in oneself, and what happens to the person in the finale of such actions. Therefore, it is better to choose a different path and be able to pacify your emotions so as not to lose how much a person is capable of, objective perception of the world.
The full path of transformation into a stoic can be reached with the help of the book: Ryan Golidey i Stiven Gensilman “Zberigayte spokіy. Schodenna Instructions for Problems ”,“ Our Format ”.
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